Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Monday, October 4, 2010
When a dude pursues a female he usually sees her out in public and how she interacts with others in society. So like any animal ; p the gentleman pursues the woman, whether hes attracted to her appearance or charm there is some form of attraction and there is something he sees in her he wants so from this day forth he courts her....
Ok so depending on the dude, him and the female may go on dates or spend time together doing something interesting so that they may both get to know each other, but most dudes dont really try to get to KNOW the lady they do just enough to get by. Most women are complete suckas for attention so the simplest of the gentlemans attempts win the woman over. During this time he realizes there are some definite pros and a few cons when it comes to his new beau.
As time goes on, the woman becomes more and more used to the guy, and the guy, whether hes commited to being her guy or not believes he can place stipulations on her, and since the lady is so interested in the guy, she allows him (this is like some vodoo ish I swear!!!). For instance, I like to go out A LOT ive dealt with guys who have had a problem with it so to be kind I slowed down or went out of town to make it seem like I wasnt going out, they were none the wiser. And by doing so I gave him, sort of what he wanted, to make him happy, to shut him up. However, it is at this point that the problem occurs.
So now, the dude figures he has the female where he wants her to be, doing what he wants her to do, and he is content. However, that spunky, happy, fun filled, good looking woman is not the same person that the dude met, she has changed or rather they way the guy looks at her has changed. So now he goes out, meets other girls, and/or continues to talk to the same old ones, looking for something he already has and probably has had before but to no avail he can not find it. Why is this? Because men are the ones who... changed the dynamics of the relationship. As much as women want to change men, or at least be responsible for them changing, they cant so eventually they give up. But dudes try to change women and women let them or at least the women lead them to believe that they have changed.
Ok now, the relationship/situatuion is over. The girl is back to her old self, looking good, and maybe the dude sees her out at the club or he thinks about her and he calls her, the lady is completely over any offerings the gentleman has for her because everything he is now so willing to do, she was doing for him before but he didnt realize what he had. So now we have the classic tale of where the script is flipped. The dude might hear another dude has intentions to pursue the lady and now he thinks "hey thats my old chick, I can get her back with no problem" but what he doesnt remember is that he let her go and when he did that she left and so did any intentions of them ever being anything more.
Why do I know this story so well? Because the majority of my closest friends are females and Ive seen it happen to them and most importantly Ive been through it. And what I learned from it is there are going to be kinks and youve got to work them out, if it is meant to be it will be and you should never feel like you have to change someone, or change yourself for someone, they liked everything about you when they met you whether they realized it or not...
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
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Wednesday, February 3, 2010
No, not the real kind oh God NO!! I don't have the energy for that but it is my love for sneakers of which I am discussing. Usually, I would play around with other sneakers, I would use them for the gym and @ my leisure. I never sought after a pair of sneakers or even cared what my sneakers looked like. Most of my sneakers were used and abused but now I think I found the sneaker that made me change my ways.
"...so I sent a text out to all the shoes I used to see saying I choose a cute kick with whom I wanna be : ) " JS Wings Sneakers
The sneaks that won my heart are from the Jeremy Scott Adidas Originals by Originals for the Spring/Summer 2010 collection, priced @ a mere $180 My Love Dont Cost a Thing!
Originals by Originals is the collaboration between Adidas Originals and three of the world’s most unique and creative streetwear and fashion designers – Jeremy Scott, Alyasha and Kazuki. Jeremy Scott’s collection was “inspired by contradictory combinations, the line offers sportswear with leopard prints such as the Boxing shoe within footwear next to nightlife looks such as the Tuxedo Jacket in sporty cotton.”
Spring/Summer Collection 2010
For his Spring Summer collection Jeremy Scott reminds us why the JS Wing (now in two new colors a rainbow reflective synthetic upper and a white patent version with golden highlights) was ever a hit and re-interprets some of the most beloved Adidas products as well as completely new designs. Inspired by rockstars, highlight pieces come with lots of rhinestones, fringes and prints.
Kudos J.S. I ♥
Saturday, January 30, 2010
I love a nice shoe, I cant afford every (maybe not any, Ill be realistic) but that doesnt mean my value for them decreases. Not only does the brand have super fly pumps but there sneak game is on point for the fellas too...
Friday, January 29, 2010
Setting: Paris Fashion Week 2010
Characters: Entertainment's Elite (i.e. Kany West, and drop dead gorgeous stylish beau Amber Rose, Ciara, designers blah blah blah
Plot: To prove "FRESH IS AN OPINION, LOVE IS OBJECTIVE, TASTE IS SELECTIVE, AND EXPRESSION IS MY FAVORITE ELECTIVE. NO MORE POLITICS OR APOLOGIES!!!"I believe Kanye West aka the "Louis Vuitton Don" is VERY stylish and is in fact a trendsetter much more than any designer has been in the last hmm lets say 3-4 years. West, along with most hip hop figures mention designer labels in their songs every other bar. But aside from the increase for the need for Gucci or Louis replicas (pardon me) the majority of the population don't have the means or the desire to turn to high end labels instead they search for the exclusive sunglass styles, the backpacks, the sneaks, and basically his entire look everyday in stores, magazines, etc. With that being said I believe West reaches a greater majority of individuals than most in the fashion industry (aside from the greats i.e. Chanel etc) have ever through his music, style, and attitude. So could anyone ever claim his fashion sense is of reproach? I dont think so...
I think Kanye West is a figure the media has decided to be made the "whipping boy" (the one to take the blame for everyone elses faults) Im sure the media believes most African American males cant be controlled or exhibit outrageous behavior and they want to reprimand them all. Which eventually they do because by the celebrities own stupidity they (pardon my language) fu** themselves i.e. Gilbert Arenas, Tiger Woods, Chris Brown etc. However, I do not believe this is so for Mr. West.
Despite the Hennesey on the red carpet thing, oh and the Taylor Swift incident, and the MTV thank you speech West has done no wrong. I say this because in retrospect the 'iffy" red carpet scene has been done (Angelina Jolie & Thornton "just had sex in the limo?") the Taylor Swift scenario was nothing but the truth we ALL know Beyonce deserved that award and we were happy Kanye made that speech and then the MTV speech, the mans mother died may she R.I.P. I believe he had the right to speak his mind and take his time so who is wrong in these situations? West or the media? You be the judge...
Below is an excerpt from West blog, I found on one of my fav blogspots @necolebitchie...check her out!
WHEN IT’S ALL SAID AND DONE, REMEMBER THE FEARLESS, REMEMBER THE DREAMERS, REMEMBER THOSE WHO REPRESENT THE GHETTO…THE FAIRY TALE OF NOTHING TO SOMETHING. I’M BRIEFLY SADDENED BY NEGATIVE COMMENTS, BUT I HAVE TO REMEMBER THOSE PEOPLE ARE SCARED, INCAPABLE OR JUST PLAIN IDIOTS.
WE ARE THE F*CKING ROCK STARS BABY. NO COCAINE, JUST LIFE MY N*GGAS!! NO COCAINE, JUST LIFE! IT’S FUNNY TO ME WHEN FASHION BLOGGERS DOWN OUR OUFITS AND THEN SUPER JOCK OUTLANDISH sh*t ON THE RUNWAY BUT THEN THEY DRESS MAD PRUDE AND DON’T LIVE FASHION. WE LIVE IT MAN. F*CK THAT, WE LIVE IT!!! WE LIVE IT SO HARD PEOPLE LIVE THROUGH US! WE REPRESENT YOUR INNER SPIRIT!! TRAPPED UNDER IT! WHEN YOU TRULY UNDERSTAND CULTURAL SETTINGS, BOUNDARIES, AND OUR MODERN DAY CASTE SYSTEMS, THEN YOU CAN FEEL THE GLORY AND PAIN FROM THE DAYS OF KINGS IN AFRICA TO THE NEW KINGS OF THE MEDIA. LET THE BALL PLAYERS DANCE AFTER THEY SCORE! IT’S LIFE MY N*GGAS, IT’S LIFE! REMEMBER CLOTHING IS A CHOICE. WE WERE BORN NAKED!!! FRESH IS AN OPINION, LOVE IS OBJECTIVE, TASTE IS SELECTIVE, AND EXPRESSION IS MY FAVORITE ELECTIVE. NO MORE POLITICS OR APOLOGIES!!!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Rihanna has really "transformed" into a style icon over the past year. Despite her publicized love quarrel with then beau Chris Brown, Rihanna hadn't mad a name for herself. She was simply Jay Z's new artist, or Chris Browns girlfriend, she was never her own person...until now.
The songstress has advanced in her music career as a pop princess overnight with the release of her new album Rated R and has showed us another side we've never seen before. From her provocative tracks (Rude Boy) to her revealing yet fashionable outfits shes not the same Ri Ri we knew before. Before, Rihanna was a simple, down to Earth "Pink" sweat suit wearing girl. However, post Brown you might catch the songstress prancing around town in all the shoes that Giuseppe made. Perhaps she took the concept of Good Girl Gone bad too far. I never considered Rihanna as a style source but she has this ability to transform through many looks: glam, rock, chic, grunge, hobo, and she looks good in almost every last one of them. Which brings us to the cover of W magazine, in this Febuary issue Rihanna brings us to the place she was in last year and how she coped with it all...
But just because Rihanna wasnt talking it does not mean that she didnt have anything to say...she let her tattoos say it for her with her, 13th tattoo which
"reads 'never a failure, always a lesson', but backward so she can read it when she looks in the mirror. “I’m glad I didn’t talk to people, because I was able to deal with things in my own way, without saying the wrong things or giving people the wrong impression.”